Hey Jackass,
I thought you should know that B had to come and pick up the key this evening in order to get into the house on Winnegreen. The key you gave him - the one with the key chain from Colombia - is S (our Colombian neighbour) from #78's house key.
He spent over 3 hours at the house or running errands for the house tonight. He has grouted the kitchen with what grout was left, but there is a patch that is not done. He has replaced the screen in the fluorescent light in the kitchen. He has tried to clean up the patching on the walls - however he has not painted in the hallways, the kids rooms or in the master bedroom - because he had no paint. I guess you didn't bother to check if the paint was left over in the basement. Those colours were not there.
So I will go and buy paint tomorrow and I will do it. I will do it while both Julia and I have a cold. While I am trying to sort out what is left in the house because I can't make rhyme nor reason of what you have done with everything in there. And I guess I will rent a dumpster to take away the rest of your things.
I tried to pay B tonight for what he purchased at home depot. He says you gave him things out of the house that you weren't taking - well did you bother to ask me if they were things I wanted? You make this "magnanimous" gesture about letting me keep the contents of the house (translation - you can't be bothered to clean anything up) but then you give things away - please don't patronize me by saying my snowshoes were moved to B's by "mistake".
You were supposed to clean out the garage and get rid of the junk. You were supposed to take care of painting the walls and re-grouting along the kitchen countertop. You were supposed to have the carpets cleaned and get rid of your stuff - not leave it behind for me to deal with - I still have to go through and get rid of your books and such. From what I can see you threw away some of the garbage in the garage (or did B do it?) and made more of a mess in the house than it was when you found it and left me holding the bag again. And the carpets have not been cleaned.
I cannot get over your complete and total lack of responsibility towards me, the kids and the matter of selling the house. If you had any common decency you would have stayed and helped them through the packing and the move. If you had any decency you would have come and asked me how to help and made yourself available to the kids so I could get some unpacking done and their home in some semblance of order for them. But instead you come and don't make time to even get the necessary things done to put the house on the market. Yet you have time to go to a Fraternity Alumni meeting. I won't even address your lack of priorities.
You have no idea the stress you have put this family under. You are choosing not to see how your careless disregard towards your children and their mother has affected them. They have been through more in the past month than they needed to - you are selfish and self-serving and can only see your own needs in life. This on top of the lack of respect and self-absorption you have displayed over the last few months is truly dismal.
This is the last time I will ever bail you out. This is the last time I will ever have to put up with your failure to fulfill your duties. You are all talk and no action - you cannot follow through on anything you say you will do. You committed to staying until June- not only did you tell the kids you were moving January 1st without having a job, you then turned around and told them that you would be here for at least half the time until June - and then turned around and left without even saying good-bye to them.
I have more class than to fight over whatever you gave to B. I have more principles than to ask a friend who helped for things back. But I will have it noted in the agreement that you chose to give away certain articles and that you left the rest for me to dispose of. You are not the noble hero here leaving me everything - you are the lazy self-serving egotist who couldn't be bothered dispose of his own stuff.
I am no longer willing to share the proceeds from anything that is sold from the contents of the house. I made that agreement in good faith based on your promises to help with what was left of the house. You failed to fulfill your end of the bargain and I have learned - yet again - that good faith holds no stead with you. You are not worthy of my good faith and you will get no more of it.
I would like to know when you have called the mediator and how and when we will negotiate our separation agreement. If we are unable to do so could you please advise me of who your lawyer will be and I will have my lawyer deal with him or her directly.
In the meantime I will forward you my bank account details by separate email so that you can commence payments "without prejudice" to support your children.
I have really had enough of this behaviour now. As I said on Wednesday I have given you everything you have asked for. I would appreciate you showing me even half the respect and common courtesy I have shown you and get this matter resolved so I can move on with my life.
Signed,
I can't wait to be done with you
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